If you want to make a smooth transition from breaking up to getting back together with your ex, then it’s important to keep a few things in mind. The process isn’t always easy, and it takes time. If you try to rush it, getting back together can quickly turn into a huge waste of time where you find yourself right in the midst of a breakup all over again.
With that in mind, here are a few do’s and don’ts to understand and follow if you want to get your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back.
Do Give Your Ex Space And Time
Never try to get back together with your ex immediately following a breakup. Emotions are simply too confusing during the initial breakup phase to make intelligent choices.
You and your ex both need time and space away from each other to decide if you really are a good fit. You need time to figure out if you miss your ex because you just don’t like being alone or if you miss your ex because you truly love him or her and feel the problems in the relationship can be resolved.
Do Keep The Lines Of Communication Open
This is a tricky one. You want to keep the lines of communication open with your ex, but you also don’t want to be pushy, needy, or come across sounding desperate.
If you hope to get back together, you’ll need to be honest with one another and fix the things that didn’t work. However, your focus should also be on creating a new, better relationship rather than salvaging the old one. In other words, try to keep your conversations positive and fun rather than constantly rehashing the past and reliving negative emotions over and over again.
Don’t Play Mind Games With Your Ex
Sure, there are certain psychological components associated with getting your ex back. Some might even be a bit manipulative, but that’s understandable when you’re trying to turn your ex’s negative emotions into positive ones. Psychological tactics are just part of the equation.
If you want a second chance with your ex, avoid mind games. For example, don’t go out and date someone else just to flaunt it in your ex’s face. There are lots of good reasons to date other people during a breakup, but if your whole goal is to purposefully make your ex extremely jealous in a mean way, then you’re going about it all wrong. All you’ll do is make your ex resent you.
Don’t Be Pushy And Aggressive
I touched on this a little bit earlier, but you never want to make your ex feel like you are pushing him or her to get back together. What happens when people feel pressured or cornered? They usually run and get out of the situation. That’s exactly what your ex will do too.
Ultimately, you want your ex to decide on his or her own that getting back together is a good idea. Sure, you’ll plant positive seeds in their mind to help steer them in the right direction, but they need to feel like they are coming back on their own terms.
Do Be Honest And Sincere
Don’t play around with your ex’s feelings. Only try to get back together if you know that’s what you truly want. Don’t get back together just because you’re lonely. Don’t get back together because you feel bad that your ex is sad and miserable without you. Don’t get back together and then go out and see someone else on the side.
I think you get the point. To get your ex back, be honest and sincere about how you feel and what you want, and respect the way your ex feels. Validate your ex even if his or her feelings don’t align with yours.